Ministry Update – Term 1 Week 8
I have noticed recently that my son, who is nine, can find it difficult to ‘get over’ conflict with his sister. He holds onto feelings of frustration and anger, and although in time they often pass, it can take some gentle coaxing and conversation for him to reach this position. But that’s all ok – he is young, and he is learning.
Forgiving someone isn’t always easy – whether you’re 9 or 49, it can be a challenge. When someone hurts us, our first instincts are rarely to offer forgiveness. Instead, we might seek to retaliate or hold a grudge, or we might even hold on to the pain – replaying the moment in our minds, feeling the anger rise whenever we think about it. We might even believe that holding onto resentment gives us a sense of justice, as if our hurt proves that we were right. But the truth is, when we refuse to forgive, we’re the ones carrying the heaviest burden. This was the message shared with Year 8 students this week when we gathered as part of their Wellbeing program.
This week’s Gospel tells the story of the prodigal son – a young man who makes mistakes, squanders his father’s wealth, and then returns home with nothing. His father, rather than punishing him, welcomes him back with open arms, offering love and forgiveness. It’s a powerful lesson about the unconditional love and forgiveness offered to us by God. But there’s another character in the story who often gets overlooked – the older brother.
He’s the one who stayed. The one who followed the rules. Yet, when he sees his father celebrating his wayward brother’s return, he’s angry. He refuses to join the feast because he’s trapped in his own sense of injustice: Why should he be forgiven so easily? What about me?
Many of us can see ourselves in both sons in this story. Like the younger son, we’ve all made mistakes or acted in ways we regret. And like the older son, we’ve felt the sting of frustration or resentment toward others. But in clinging to his anger, the older brother shuts himself off from joy. He distances himself not only from his brother but also from his father too. This is what unforgiveness does to us – it builds walls. It keeps us stuck in the past when life is moving forward.
Letting go of resentment doesn’t mean pretending the hurt never happened. It doesn’t mean ignoring injustice, and it certainly doesn’t mean that what may have happened to us is ok. It means choosing to free ourselves from the weight of anger. It means making space for healing, for peace, and for the possibility of restored relationships.
Jesus calls us to love as He loves – not because it’s always easy, but because it’s what sets us free. In the story of the good Samaritan, Jesus calls us to love our neighbour – a group that he later goes on to explain includes our enemies just as much as it does our friends.
You might like to take some time over these next few weeks to think about where there is space in your life for forgiveness – either for yourself or for others. What hurt, anger, or pain might you be holding onto, that deep down, you know is weighing you down? And what small steps might you take to allow these feelings to pass? These are some of the same questions we reflected on this week with our Year 8’s.
Keep in mind, forgiveness isn’t always instant, and it’s not always easy. In fact, it rarely is, especially for young people who are still learning to explore and understand their emotions. But when we choose to let go – even in small ways – we open ourselves to a sense of peace and contentment, and the chance to move forward without the weight of resentment holding us back.
As we continue through Lent, may we find the courage to forgive, the humility to seek forgiveness, and the wisdom to embrace the healing that comes with both.
Mr Stuart McClorey
DIRECTOR OF MISSION & CATHOLIC IDENTITY